Why Some Submissives Love the Pull
When most people hear the word wedgie they probably think of a schoolyard prank, something embarrassing or just something funny. I did too because honestly I had no idea a wedgie fetish even existed until somebody reached out to me and explained exactly what he was looking for.
That is one thing I find fascinating about fetish and BDSM, you will hear something you have never heard of before and then somebody explains exactly what they want and why they enjoy it. I don’t judge, I listen because what sounds funny or unusual to one person can be very erotic to somebody else.
For some people a wedgie is not just funny or embarrassing. It can be about sensation, clothing, anticipation, embarrassment, control or a combination of all of those things and from what I have experienced there really is not one reason why somebody enjoys it.
What IS a Wedgie Fetish?
A wedgie fetish is an erotic interest in wedgies and it can be incorporated into a larger BDSM session or be one of the main things you are looking for. You might enjoy the actual physical sensation, the clothing involved, embarrassment, anticipation or simply having somebody else in control.
My introduction to this fetish came from a submissive who was very particular about what he wanted. He loved hearing the word “shorts,” specifically not boxers or briefs, he wanted them called shorts and that detail was important to him.
He also liked me telling him what color shorts to wear and he wanted a wedgie when he arrived and throughout the session. I found it interesting because it showed me immediately that this was not just about somebody pulling up his shorts, there were a lot of other details involved.
There is not one answer because no two submissives are the same and I say that over and over again with almost every fetish. What turns you on about something may be completely different from what another submissive gets out of the exact same thing.
Sometimes it is funny and embarrassing, sometimes you want the physical sensation and sometimes it is about somebody else taking control. Your mood and what is going on in your life can also change what you are looking for on that particular day.
Why Can a Wedgie Be Arousing?
The Physical Sensation
For some people the physical sensation is definitely part of it. Most of the wedgie play I have done is light and playful but occasionally somebody wants an intense wedgie and yes that can become uncomfortable.
I have had a submissive request that at some point I pull his shorts hard enough that they actually rip apart. That is obviously a very different intensity than a playful wedgie and it is something he specifically wanted incorporated.
That does not mean because you have a wedgie fetish you automatically want pain. You may want sensation or discomfort while somebody else wants something much lighter, again this is why I need to know what you are actually looking for instead of assuming.
Giving Up Control
For me I think control is a big part of why some submissives enjoy this. If I tell you exactly what you are going to wear, how you are going to wear it and I expect you to follow those instructions, you have already started giving up some control before you ever walk through my door.
With one submissive I would sometimes send very detailed instructions throughout the week. I would tell him what color shorts to wear or whether I wanted print or plaid leading up to the day of his session.
I would also require him to send me a picture and I could be very specific, I might want the shorts one inch above his jeans or two inches above his jeans. He didn’t have to decide because I already decided for him and I believe that is part of what he enjoyed.
A lot of submissives enjoy that freedom of not having to make the decision. Even something as simple as the color of your shorts becomes part of giving control to somebody else.
Anticipation
Anticipation does not have to begin when you arrive for a session. If I have already told you what you are wearing several days before you see me then you are already thinking about the session, you already know I made the decision and you know I expect you to follow through.
That creates a psychological part to the fetish that I find very interesting. The wedgie itself may last a short amount of time but the anticipation can start days before because every time you put those shorts on you know why you are wearing them.
Clothing Is Part of the Fetish
With the submissives I have encountered clothing can be a very important part of the wedgie fetish. Sometimes it is the fabric, sometimes the length, sometimes a particular brand and the color is usually something I choose.
If I tell you what shorts you need to wear when you are coming to see me, those shorts are now part of the instructions. You are not just grabbing whatever happens to be clean that morning, you are wearing what I told you to wear because that is what I expect.
This is why I don’t think wedgie fetish can always be reduced down to simply enjoying your underwear being pulled.
Sometimes the clothing itself is part of the fetish and the control starts with what you were told to put on.
Wedgie Fetish and Humiliation Play
Embarrassment and humor can absolutely be part of wedgie play but I would never assume you want humiliation just because you enjoy wedgies. One submissive may enjoy looking a little ridiculous while another one is much more interested in the physical sensation or the control.
I also think what you enjoy can change depending on your mood and what is happening in your life. Sometimes you may want the humor and embarrassment and another time you may be much more focused on sensation or giving up control.
That is something people outside of BDSM sometimes miss. The same activity does not automatically have the same meaning for everybody doing it.
Wedgies, Role Play and Fantasy
Wedgie play can have a playful quality to it without needing some big elaborate role play around it. Sometimes the anticipation, instructions and knowing what is coming is enough to create the fantasy.
I don’t need to make up a complicated story around something if that is not what you are looking for. If what gets into your head is knowing I chose the shorts and I am going to decide what happens to them when you arrive, that can be enough.
What Does a Wedgie Session Actually Look Like?
In my practice wedgie play is usually light and playful, although occasionally it becomes more intense depending on what has been discussed. It might also start before you ever arrive because I have already decided what shorts you will wear and I may have required you to show me that you followed my instructions.
During the session a wedgie may happen when you arrive and then again throughout the session. How intense it becomes depends on what has been discussed and what I decide I am comfortable doing, because your request does not mean I automatically agree to everything you want.
One session that really stands out involved the submissive who wanted his shorts eventually ripped apart from the wedgie. Being that I’m short and he was taller it actually takes a lot of strength to pull those shorts up fast enough and high enough to make them rip apart.
It is one of those situations where yes, from the outside the whole thing might look funny. For the submissive though the reaction, anticipation and intensity were very real and that is the part that matters.
Is Wedgie Fetish About Pain?
No, not necessarily. There can be discomfort and there can definitely be intensity but that does not mean pain is automatically what you are looking for.
You might be much more interested in the loss of control, embarrassment, clothing or anticipation than how physically intense the wedgie becomes.
Another submissive may want something stronger, which is why I don’t believe in assuming that everybody with the same fetish wants the same session.
When Wedgie Play Overlaps With Other Kinks
Wedgie play can definitely overlap with other kinks and in my experience that might include clothing fetishes, sensation play, pegging, breath play and other interests. Having a wedgie fetish does not mean that is the only thing you are interested in.
This is another reason I say no two submissives are the same. You can come to me with one very specific fetish but also have completely different interests that you want incorporated, and somebody else who loves wedgies might want none of those things.
I need to know what YOU are looking for. I am not going to take one fetish and decide I suddenly know everything else you enjoy.
The Difference Between Funny and Erotic
This is probably one of the most interesting parts about wedgie fetish because one person can look at it and think it is hilarious while somebody else can become genuinely aroused by it.
Sometimes you can even experience both because humor and eroticism do not have to cancel each other out. How do I know the difference when I am working with you? I watch you.
Especially the first time I spend with somebody I watch their face, I listen to their breathing and I pay attention to their reaction. No two people are the same so I cannot assume that because one submissive reacted a certain way, you are going to react exactly the same.
Knowing your submissive is extremely important to me. Your face and your reactions tell me a lot and I am paying attention to those things throughout the session, not just going through motions because you told me you like wedgies.
Consent, Communication and Practical Limits
Safety is always most important when doing any fetish and wedgie play is no different. Before a session it is important that we review what you are looking for, your boundaries and the intensity you are expecting because I am never looking to injure you.
Just because you requested something intense does not mean I stop paying attention once we begin. I need to know my submissive and that means watching your face, listening to your breathing and paying attention to how you are responding in front of me.
I also determine what I am willing to do. You can tell me what you fantasize about and what you would like to experience but ultimately I decide what I will incorporate into one of my sessions.
What People Misunderstand About Wedgie Fetish
I think wedgie fetish is misunderstood just like so many other kinks in this industry. If you have never experienced a particular desire yourself it is very easy to look at it and say why would anybody possibly want that?
I had no idea this fetish existed myself until somebody reached out and explained what he wanted. Instead of judging him I listened and what I learned was that something that sounds incredibly simple can actually have a lot of different pieces to it.
The shorts mattered, the word shorts mattered, the color mattered, my instructions mattered and the anticipation mattered. The physical wedgie was only one part of the whole experience.
Exploring Wedgie Fetish With a Pro Domme
If you have a very specific fetish you might be nervous about explaining it to somebody because you are worried about how it is going to sound. I understand that some requests are unusual, but unusual does not automatically mean there is something wrong with them.
If you approach me about wedgie play I want to understand what part of it actually turns you on. Is it the shorts, the physical sensation, embarrassment, anticipation, having me decide what you wear, losing control or some combination of those things?
You can tell me what you want and what is in your head, but remember I am still the Domme. I decide what I am comfortable with, what I am willing to incorporate and ultimately what level of wedgie play you are going to receive from me.
You Are Not Alone
The biggest thing I want somebody reading this to understand is no matter what comes through your head, with a few exceptions, there is probably somebody else out there who wants the same thing. You are not alone and you do not need to assume that because your fetish is unusual nobody else could possibly understand it.
I didn’t know wedgie fetish existed until somebody told me about it and now I have seen how clothing, anticipation, embarrassment, sensation, humor and giving up control can all come together. What looks funny to somebody on the outside can be very real and very erotic to the person experiencing it.
That is why I listen before I judge. If wedgie fetish is something you have thought about and you want to explore it with me, apply to serve.
