Power Exchange: Structure, Service & Surrender
September calls for discipline, devotion and intentional dynamic design.
Dear Curious Creatures,
As the heat of the summer cools and the days grow more structured, September invites us back into rhythm – a perfect time to deepen our dynamic or explore one for the first time.
This month in The Kink Chronicles, we’re focusing on the foundations of power exchange: what it means, how to build it, and why it thrives on mutual care and clarity – NOT control for control’s sake.
What is Power Exchange, really?
Power exchange is the intentional transfer of control between consenting partners. It can be momentary (scene based) or ongoing (lifestyle based), but at its heart is negotiated trust.
Breaking down the 3 layers:
Protocol: Daily rituals that reinforce roles and connection. More lifestyle based. Even when you session there are rituals or routines.
Service: Acts of giving (or receiving) that feel meaningful and affirming. A sub might sponsor nails, a lunch out for me, a cup of coffee – these are little acts of service that mean a lot.
Surrender: Not just obedience, but emotional and psychological openness.
September is a good time to reflect for all of us.
- What’s one thing that’s working really well?
- Is there a rule or ritual that feels off or needs adjusting?
Think about the above 2 questions and email me your thoughts.
Are you ready to start your journey in the Kink/BDSM world? Application link below.
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Mistress Morgan is by far the best dominatrix I have ever known. Kind, strict, unbelievably beautiful and the most knowledgeable of anyone I have known or seen in my over 25 years of experience with different mistresses. Just incredible!!!!
I have been with Domina Kat for almost 6 years. It only took one session for me to realize she is the best in the business. Miss Kat is my monthly stress relief. She is my drug of choice. You will never find a better high than a session with Domina Kat Morgan.
September is my Birthday Month
September is my birthday month. Gifts are not necessary but if you wish to purchase something please go to my wishlist and pick something off of there.
Buying an implement for the play space is not a gift for me, that is a gift for you.
Other ideas are:
Gift cards: Amazon, Target, Gas, Somerset Mall gift cards.
Cash is always a good gift as well as I can then buy something by adding it together. (I can use cash for nails, hair, spa treatments, facials, etc.)
When you are requesting strict bondage with straps, cling wrap, etc please keep in mind an hour is NOT enough. Try to schedule 90 minutes, I personally feel that would provide a better experience. It would not be rushed.
Discretion: Your discretion is just as important as mine.
This means the following:
- When you arrive wear normal civilian clothes: There is no PVC, animal gear, walking in shirtless, wearing SLUT clothes if you are a CD. Please dress as if you are going to church or a respectable restaurant for dinner. Blend with the environment. You are not attending the Dirty Show. Doing things like this will cause me to shut my doors and good luck finding a new Mistress.
- When you are on the porch at the door either entering or leaving, DO NOT TALK. Example: Do not say bye KAT. Enter quietly and leave quietly.
- When you are inside, use your inside voice please and thank you. Some of you speak very loudly.
Using the clean bathroom I provide for you:
- Please flush the toilet after you use it.
- Lay all towels or wash cloths you use on the bathroom counter.
- If you use a big bath towel hanging on the towel rack, please place on the vanity. Do not wipe your ass with the towel and put it back.
Deposit: Your deposit is good for 30 days. If you do not use it within 30 days, you lose it. It cannot be used 1 year or 2 years later.
Cancellations:
- I understand that life can interfere with our plans. Should you need to reschedule, I am happy to accommodate, within reason.
- If you cancel within 48 hours, there is a 50% cancellation fee.
- If you cancel within 24 hours, there is a 75% cancellation fee.
- The same day and full session rate required.
- If I cancel – I will refund your deposit or we can reschedule. I only cancel if there is a family emergency.
Late Arrivals: If you are late, that time is paid for and spent. Meaning if you are 15 minutes late, your session is 15 minutes shorter. If you are 30 minutes late, I leave and you owe for the full amount.
Being late is disrespectful of my time.
With that said, there are extenuating circumstances.
Example: A sub was driving from Cleveland to Michigan. There was a terrible ice storm, roads shut down all over both Ohio and Michigan. He texted and said, he was leaving really early. He texted me thru out his trip letting me know of his status. It took me 1.5 hours to get to my space, a drive that normally takes 40 minutes. He was 10 minutes late, I did NOT penalize him.
Session Time: If you book an hour you receive an hour of my time.
I cannot physically sit and chat with everyone for a half hour or hour for free. If I start adding that up it can be 10 hours of free time per week and more.
Would you work for your company for free every week for that amount of time?
I kept track of this over a 3 month period and it really added up. I could have worked and made money.
Remember when I take vacation, holidays, off sick I do not get paid. I have slow periods where sometimes there is no work for 2 weeks, therefore when I can work I need to do so.
Please be respectful of my time. Those of you who do, I appreciate you. Thank you.
New Toys: I have added a couple of new nipple torture devices or nipple pleasure devices. Depends on who you are will depend on what you call them. Some additional bondage items as well as several new dildos for the harnesses.
